It’s How You See Things

                                                                 

Perspective is the we see things and put them into our own understanding.  We can all look at “The Old Man on the Mountain” in the White Mountains, New Hampshire (which is no longer there, after April 2003) and not see an image of an old man’s profile.  Others will see it clearly.

We can either gain a good perspective by experiencing certain situations and listening to those who are going through a certain situation.

Lately, there have been at least 3 top one liners given to those who are searching for a job, even though they already have a job.

1.  Well, just be grateful that you have a job.

The person who just said this, does not have the full understanding as to why the other person is looking for a job.  It could be that the person is needing to find a better paying job, because their family is needing help.  Maybe the current job is too far for them.  Or, it could be that they are so unhappy with their current job, that the only way to get through life is to change scenery.

In order to be grateful for something, the person needs to find the blessing in it.  If the job doesn’t give them a blessing, there’s no way they’re going to feel grateful.  However, they don’t need to act ungrateful. 

2.  At least you have job security here.

Please see the above.  Furthermore, it’s assuming that the person isn’t on the verge of being fired, yet they’re doing the responsible thing by finding another job, before they truly do get fired.  Maybe the person feels like they’ve grown as much as they possibly can in that environment and can’t grow anymore, unless they change jobs.  The job security will eventually kill them-mentally, physically, or both.  Trust me, I see it on a daily basis.

3.  It’s not easy finding a job out there, nowadays.

Have you, the person who just said this, attempted to find a job in the last week, month, or even year?  Granted, the jobs that are being offered are a lot less.  But, people die, retire, quit, get fired from their jobs daily.  That just frees up 4 job openings right there.  What’s being said on the news, by ‘experts’, and who knows what, is basically telling those who are looking for work: You will need to think more creatively now, more than ever before, if you want to find another job.  Yes, it will be another job, just to find another job.  (It’s like that phrase, “A vacation from a vacation.”)  But, just like anything else, whatever you put into it, you’ll get out of it.

With that being said, from a Christian standpoint, perspective is also the same essence as grace.  Grace only comes, once you’ve walked in the other person’s shoes and can show empathy for the situation that they’re in.  From a secular viewpoint, it’s when you’ve walked in the other person’s shoes and can show empathy for the situation that they’re in.  

In other words, don’t pass judgment or discourage someone who’s wanting to make a change.  The bottomline: Don’t assume and dole out phrases that don’t seem to match the other person’s perspective.  First see it from their viewpoint and then you can start questioning their motives, ideas, or convictions.

Survival of the Fittest

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This past week I was reminded that it’s the ones who keep striving, the ones who keep fighting are the ones who actually overcome anything.

I then went through some of my old photos.  Last year, I had gotten a new camera and went to Cal State Long Beach to the Japanese Tea Garden.  My husband and I bega
n feeding the fish.  They were swarming to get to the food.  Some were even willing to stick their head out of the water and truly work for the food.

Of course, there were ones who were naturally ‘there, at the right place, right time,’ that they didn’t have to work for it.  Others were fighting and again, willing to put their ‘life’ on the line in order to get a little nibble.

This is how life is.  How we approach each assignment that is given to us, determines if we even get fed.  It doesn’t need to be so much as food.  But, if we want recognition, we at times need to work for it.  If needing a new transmission for a car is what needs to be obtained, and money is tight, we are willing to do anything that it takes-working 2 jobs, collecting recyclables, pinching every penny to get the money to pay for it.

Whether you want to call it sacrificing or surviving, what ever way you look at it, the person who’s holding the bag, is the one who overcame.  It’s not so much about winning.

Life isn’t about winning or losing, but rather learning what works for you and sticking to it, until the job is done.

Aim High, Appreciate the Low

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Just this past week, my family & I watched “The Middle”, the 2 part season finale, where the family goes to Walt Disney World.  The part that still keeps sticking out in my mind is when Axel admits that he studied and his final grades are all “B’s”.  He aimed High, got better than expected grades, and relished the fact that he can actually succeed in school.

I’ve been giving our foreign exchange student, little bits of wisdom, regarding being successful.  I gave her this example:  Shoot for studying at 100%.  Learn as much as you possibly can.  Then, if you take a quiz or test, and only receive a 70%, you at least know the other 30% and can improve, easily.  But, if you only shoot for a 70% and only get a 70% on a quiz or test, there’s no more room grow.

As I’m now searching for a new place of employment, I aim high, applying to all the jobs that I would like to attempt.  Even if I don’t get an interview, knowing that my name is out there and going through the motions puts me closer to the new life I’m yearning for.

Aiming High, Appreciate the Low also gives me hope that things are never going to be the status quo.  I’ve had people ask me why I want to leave the company I’m currently at.  I’ve been told that I should just be grateful of having the job that I do have.

Don’t get me wrong.  I am eternally grateful that I have the job that I have.  But, i know that I’ve grown out of the place.  If I don’t leave, I will become stunted.  My hope comes from Aiming High.  My gratefulness is Appreciating the Low.  But, knowing that there’s room for growth elsewhere, motivates me to keep searching.

Hopefully, this comes to you in a time that Aiming High comes naturally and Appreciating the Low is right behind.